“Who wouldn’t want a love like that? I want that. Why can’t I have that?” – Anonymous

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This lovely letter was received from a reader who has requested to stay anonymous. Dear younger me I fear that love has not been kind to us over the years. You know that song by Amy Grant, “Baby baby”? Well, for us that fun music video is still the idealistic romance we’ve always looked at with a yearning heart. “I want that. Why can’t I have that”? Instead for us, love has been challenging, complicated and in some ways limiting of our true self. It hasn’t been that effortless soaring, where life becomes “And” – an expansive joy, instead of “Or” – a stable and warm but somehow lessening compromise. In our twenties you still believe in the fairy tale very much, but unfortunately the soul mate you’re in love with is going to be so broken in themselves that […]

Oprah’s letter to her 20-year old self: Love yourself from your own heart

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Oprah wrote a letter to her 20-year old self, as published and re-blogged from here Dear beautiful brown-skinned girl, I look into your eyes and see the light and hope of myself. In this photo you are just about to turn 20, posing outside the television station where you were recently hired as a reporter. You’re proud of yourself for getting the job, but uncertain you’ll be able to manage all your college classes before 1 and arrive at the station by 1:30 for a full day’s work. Even so, your biggest concern is how to manage your love life with Bubba. Yes, you are dating someone named Bubba. On this day you’ve brought him to the station to see where you work, hoping he’ll be proud, too. He seems less than impressed. The truth is, he’s intimidated. You don’t […]